March 10, 2014
My son and I were playing in the living room around 2:30 this afternoon when one of the other denizens of the house came out from her room. It was obvious from her appearance that she had just woken up. I offered a bright and cheerful “Good morning!”. She mumbled something noncommital, got a drink from the kitchen and went back into the other room. My statement was intended to acknowledge her presence, greet her, indicate that it was nice to see her, share how my day was going so far, wish positive things upon her, and to just be friendly in general.
After she had gone I started to think about the interaction. I am very direct and tend to say exactly what I mean. It is possible,though, that she thought I was being sarcastic. After all it was no longer morning. And if it was no longer morning perhaps the well wishing was not sincere either. Another thought that crossed my mind, was to wonder if she thought I was judging her in some way for only now starting her day when everyone else had already been up for hours.
Sometimes small events like this end up causing enormous problems down the road because you take one thing away from the conversation and the other person takes something completely different out of it. And one or both of you make decisions and choices based on your side of the story that cause you to make things even worse without even really trying to.
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March 10, 2014
In theater, good performance is about more than just memorizing a bunch of words vocal tones and and facial expressions. Someone who is just regurgitating the lines that they have memorized and going through the general motions of their character is not going to do well in that role and will have a tough time obtaining new roles in the future.
In order to be a successful actor, on or off screen, you need to really get into the role of your character. In order to do that, you first need to figure out what it is that drives the character. What motivates them to do whatever it is that they do? Once you understand that it becomes easy to assume the role of that person.
The reason for this is because once you know what drives a person you can know with a fair degree of accuracy how they will feel and act when certain circumstances occur. Then as an actor you say and do the things that they would do. Even if you are restricted to specific lines due to the nature of the script you will know what the proper tone, inflection and pitch for your voice are based on how the character feels due to circumstance.
How does this relate to the business world? Read more by going here.
March 10, 2014
Remember report card day when you were growing up?
Maybe you were one of those kids who made straight A’s in school and knew you had nothing to worry about when it came time to show the folks how you were doing in class. Maybe you made a few A’s and the rest B’s and C’s. Or perhaps you were one of those kids that dreaded report card day because you knew that’s when the folks would get to find out just exactly how bad you were doing.
Regardless of which of the above mentioned three groups you were in, whether it was fear or anticipation, there was still always an air of nervous excitement when the grades were being handed out. Even if you knew exactly what grade you had in every category, somehow it was just never real until you saw the letters on that piece of paper spelling it all out in no uncertain terms.
The kids with the good grades would usually brag to their friends and be happy to show their parents. While the ones that did not do so well often avoided the subject when asked and did everything possible to keep their parents from finding out.
Most of those kids had parents that missed the point of these things? What is the point? Click here to read on and find out
March 10, 2014
In movies and comic books the best most relatable heroes are always the ones with real people problems. Many of these characters are dealing with guilt over past actions or feelings of revenge or depression over loss of loved ones.We find some difficulty or hardship that the character has that we also have, so we connect with them on a deep personal level.
But the opposite is also true. We see positive qualities in these very same heroes that we either have or want in our own lives. These qualities cause our like of the hero to resonate even more strongly. For me personally, my favorite comic book character of all time, even though he technically is not really a hero, is Wolverine.
Though many of the things in his past are a lot more over the top than mine, we both have a somewhat checkered past. I was constantly making the wrong choices when I was younger. I was in and out of trouble with the law quite a few times. We have both done things that we are not proud of but would not undo those things due to valuable lessons we learned as a result of those choices.
Why else does he appeal to me? Click here to find out.
March 10, 2014
I woke up today and decided that I was going to go out and get the supplies to make tomato sauce. Tomorrow night, for dinner, we are having home made marinara sauce, angel hair pasta, meat balls, garlic bread and Italian sausage.
I haven’t made this particular meal in a couple of years and around here it’s somewhat legendary. It is a fan favorite amongst all who have ever tried it. And I personally love it. But it takes me eighteen hours to three days to make, depending on whether or not I start out with fresh tomatoes instead of canned. So, I almost never go through the effort.
What is funny about that is I am always saying I am gonna make it again soon. And I have tried to talk myself into it several times over the last few months. Not today though. I woke up and knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that I was going shopping and that once I got the supplies, I was setting to work making this awesome food. It kind of a amazes me how this sudden desire came out of the clear blue and I am still wondering about it.
Why now? Why today? Click here to read more
March 7, 2014
An average looking man walks up to a rather attractive woman and asks her if she would sleep with him for ten million dollars. She smiles brightly and says “yes, of course”. He then takes ten dollars out of his wallet, hands it to her and says “how about for ten dollars?” With a shocked look on her face she says “what kind of woman do you think I am?” He replies, “we’ve already established that. Now we’re just negotiating the price.”
It’s kind of a funny example. But it is something to think about. In this particular example one person is asking another to do something that they probably would not do just because the first person asked them to. So he mentions a ridiculous sum of money as a bribe. Without even thinking about it, she says yes. She has literally indicated that her services can easily be bought and that ten million dollars is more than enough.Then he offers practically nothing as motivation and she gets offended. But what if he had offered ten thousand instead of ten? And then if she said yes to ten thousand maybe she would also say yes to one thousand. There is a point where she would have hesitated between yes and no and then if he offered just a little more it would again be back to a firm yes.
This particular example is about prostitution, but it really is how every exchange of goods and services works. Click here to read on.
March 7, 2014
Have you ever noticed that opportunity seems to present itself more often when you don’t really seem to need it? If you already have a job, job offers may come pouring in. Or if you are married or in a serious relationship other people seem more interested in being in relationships with you.
Yet if you are single, sometimes it seems like no matter how much energy you put in, you just do not seem to get anywhere. And when you are unemployed everyone seems to look the other way when they see you coming. These examples are not absolutes of course, or no one who is unemployed would ever get a new job and no one who is single would ever start a new relationship. But it does seem easier if you already have a job or a relationship to find a new one.
Why is this? Well let’s take a look. A person who has a job is obviously employable. They must have certain desirable traits and qualifications that someone at least wants or they would not have gotten the job. The same is true of someone already in a relationship.
The conclusion of my article on opportunity can be found here
March 7, 2014
Archimedes, Alexander the Great, Jesus Christ, Socrates and Akhenaten were all famous men of their time. Other than their fame they all share one very specific trait. They have all passed on. They died.
The first toothbrushes were made of twigs with frayed ends around 3000 B.C. . Toothpaste, on the other hand, first came into popular usage around the early ninth century. Perhaps their lives could have been saved if only they had used toothpaste in brushing their teeth.
Ridiculous you say? How is that? Julia Roberts brushes her teeth. So do Oprah, Alice Cooper and Busta Rhymes. They are all famous people and are all still alive. That proves that toothpaste saves lives doesn’t it?
People that brush their teeth with toothpaste are alive. Dead people are not alive. Dead people do not brush their teeth with toothpaste. Therefore not brushing your teeth with toothpaste kills you.
Or how about this one. All men are intelligent and articulate. All women are not men. Therefore all women are not intelligent and articulate.
They are both logical fallacies. They start at one logical point and from there attempt to pigeonhole you into automatically accepting some other logical point as true. Each one leaves out crucial information that could automatically disprove the statements being made.For example, there are plenty of people that have brushed their teeth with toothpaste every day of their lives from childhood onward who have still ended up dying.
Click here for more on the messed up “logic” that people use everyday.
March 7, 2014
Okay, it’s been put off for long enough. Today we’re gonna talk about procrastination. See what I did there? Why put off for later what can be put off forever?
But seriously, you probably do not realize just how poisonous procrastination is to your goals.Life is quite often hectic and confusing. We are so busy dealing with things on a continuous basis that when a chance to stop and take a breather arrives we jump all over it. And there is nothing wrong with that.
But when some opportunity to advance your dreams comes up don’t put it off until later. I like to say procrastination procreates.Because once you put a thing off for the first time you have set a
precedent. After all, putting it off once was alright. Your life isn’t likely to slow down and wait for you to catch up on the things you want to do. So each time that thing comes up in the future you are just as likely to be as busy and/or as tired as you were when it came up the first time. So, once you set that precedent you are just as likely to keep making excuses every time it comes up. What you put off once you will probably never do unless forced to by some outside force.
Stop and take a couple of minutes to think about that and then click here to read on.
March 7, 2014
I was talking to a friend of mine the other day who is going to school to become a mechanic. He was telling me about a part of the class that he was kind of struggling with. He was looking at this thing that was giving him trouble and seeing it as something that could make his next couple of weeks in the class rather difficult.
My reaction at first confused him. I saw what he was saying as an awesome opportunity rather than an obstacle. Most of the things he had been learning up until this point were things he already knew or had at least a passing familiarity with. But this “new” thing will increase his knowledge base and expand his mind. Once he conquers it he will have additional confidence in his abilities.
That is not what makes this thing so great though. What makes it great, is that he is now aware that he is not familiar with or good at this particular thing. In short it is a weakness. And the awesome thing about that is, once you are aware of a weakness you can annihilate it. While you are unaware of it, you can do nothing about it.
Click here to find out what it is that obstacles do to make your life better in the long run