August 30, 2014
Before getting around to the answer to this question, first, what does punctual mean? No, I assure you, it does not mean using question marks, commas and exclamation points in the right places. That is proper usage of punctuation and while that is a very important part of communication, it is not what this topic is about.
Being punctual simply means being on time for whatever engagement you have agreed to arrive for. On time, not two hours late, not thirty, ten or even one minute late. You don’t have to be an hour early, but if you are even one minute late, then you are not on time.
So, what? You’re a few minutes late. Who cares right? It’s not that big of a deal is it? Well that depends on what kind of message you are attempting to send the person you have the agreement with.
Click here to read on and see exactly what it is that you are telling others each time you are late.
August 25, 2014
By now, you may have noticed that a lot of the things that I tend to talk about are direct quotes from movies, books or TV or are things that I think about those things. You may be wondering why. Don’t I have any original thoughts? Can’t I come up with my own ideas?
Wise King Solomon said there is nothing new under the sun. As far as inventions and creature comforts i disagree. Science is coming up with new things that we never had before all the time. But when it comes to traditions and philosophy, you know, what we think, how we think it and how we choose to run our lives, he was right on the money.
Right and wrong. Morals and ethics. Ways that one can behave. There are millions of them and they don’t change over time. All there is is all there ever was or ever will be. Although it may not seem like it sometimes, all things are reflections of other things. And in every little thing is at least one lesson we can learn about life. It may be how to improve ourselves or our lives or things we can suggest to others, but everything no matter how small is important.
Why do I focus on the things that I do? Click here to read on and see
August 22, 2014
So, last time we talked about how resistance is futile. And it really is true. The more energy you put into defending yourself, the more fuel you feed your attackers. Yet how can we be master of our domains and lord and ruler over our lives if we can’t “fight back”?
Well, you can, just not directly. If someone is attacking your character and saying or doing things to tarnish your reputation, the simplest easiest thing to do is just ignore it. Whatever attention you focus on denying the things that people say about you just brings more attention to the fact that someone is claiming negative things about you.
People, in general, do not really care about the truth. They are going to believe whatever they want to believe. Bearing this fact in mind, it should come as no surprise that the more people there are that hear a negative thing about you, the more people there are that will believe that thing, no matter how strong your evidence to the contrary is.
What does Mad Men main character Don Draper have to say about this? Click here to read on and see.
August 19, 2014
The Borg. They are a recurring “alien” race on various Star Trek TV shows. These people are basically humanoid but have had certain hardware bonded to their bodies such that they are a truly fascinating amalgamation of flesh and technology. They are truly bio-mechanical beings that can easily survive in hostile environments that would kill most people. The Borg have existed for millenia and spend their time flying around the galaxy assimilating other races and technologies.
They have a hive mind and each individual that becomes part of the collective adds to their pool of knowledge and resources. So, they have the might and technological know-how of trillions of people collected over thousands of years. The Borg can operate for days on end without tiring, have no fear and can adapt almost instantly to any type of attack, preventing the same thing from ever working on them twice.
These people have nowhere else to be other than wherever they happen to be at the moment and can always focus their entire time and attention to the current goal. It is their belief that given enough time they cannot fail and will always overwhelm their opponents in the end. You may win a battle with the Borg, but you will not win the war. They know this because they have thousands of years of history showing this to be true.
Resistance is futile. You will click here to read on.
August 15, 2014
So no I don’t believe our choices make us good or bad people. But now for the part where I kind of do.
As children we are all blank slates. We start out from nothing with no knowledge of good or bad with no record of past successes or failures. We are filled with love for all people and all things. We have only one desire, one hope, one craving, to be loved back. And this is where most parents screw up.
When we yell at our children, we are voicing our disapproval with them. To them, when we do so, we are holding back our love or making it conditional on their behavior. Unless we are very careful and very specific we may unknowingly cause permanent harm to both their ego and their future lives.
A typical response to not liking something that a child is doing is to say that they are being bad. The problem with this is that even though you may realize that what you mean is the child is taking an action that you do not approve of, what they hear is that they ARE bad. Everyone knows that good people are loved and bad people are not. So when you tell the child that they are being bad, you are both declaring that they are a bad person and that you do not love them.
This is not at all acceptable. But how can we prevent this and still express our concerns ? Click here to read on and see
August 13, 2014
Nearly a year ago I talked about definitions for good and evil and how often one or the other is subjective due to circumstance. An action that is good for one may be bad for another and vice versa. At the time I promised more on the subject. However, there was so much more I wanted to say about other things that it got pushed aside. Today I am back for more on the topic.
Many stories, in both print and digital format have clearly defined boundaries. The presence or lack thereof of a character’s moral fiber is easy to see. You often know from the very beginning who is the “good” guy and who is the bad. I am of course talking about classic tales of good and evil, things like Cinderella, Snow White, Sleeping Beauty, Little Red Riding Hood, Godzilla and other such fairy tales.
Life however isn’t really much like those stories. Sure many of the components are there, romance, conflict and even the choices to do good or bad things. But, do those choices make us good or bad people? No, not really. And yes absolutely depending on your point of view. Seeing things as polarized, as black or white means ignoring all the colors in between. There is so much more but we often choose not to see it. So, of course, with any question where I answer on both sides of the fence more explanation is required.
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August 11, 2014
In this world, we are taught at a young age that it is a man eat man, dog eat dog, everyone for himself kind of situation. We are instructed to look out for number one and not worry too much about anyone else. We are told you have to look out for yourself because nobody else will. And let’s face it, who cares about anyone else as long as you get yours, right?
This seems like a sound strategy, at first, as long as you don’t really think about it. But once you do, you will realize that it can’t really work for everyone. Sure, it works for some but it can’t work for everyone. The only people who are going to get what they want are the ones that are willing to beat down or deprive others, those willing to force their way through and take from others so that they can have what they want.
Some examples of the extremes of this type of thinking being the general way of life are places like Somalia and some of the Middle East. You have a few bullies and bad boys, those that are strong or powerful enough to live at the top of the food chain and everyone else suffers. Even most of those in the middle and bottom rungs of society are still only looking out for themselves. They just don’t have the will or the means to get where they want to be.
So if this philosophy doesn’t work, is us vs them any better? Click here to read on and see.
August 8, 2014
We all have habits that don’t serve us. It is the primary reason why our lives do not happen exactly the way we want them to. We say and do things on a regular basis that are contrary to what we “want”. The energy and focus that should go into carefully crafting our lives with laser focus gets shifted to other things. And then many things that should be opportunities for us seem to become impossible obstacles.
But what can you do about it? It is just human nature, right? I mean, everybody has bad habits. There are things like smoking, overeating, swearing like a sailor, drinking too much, not listening to others, and overspending our budget (if we even have a budget) just to name a few. There are nearly as many different bad habits as there are people to explore them.
Often, our habits and not our desires are what run our lives. Without these things our lives would take a very different course. But, again, what can you do about it? Nearly all of us have struggled and failed to break a habit at some point. Why? What makes it so hard? Shouldn’t it be just as simple as identifying behavior that we don’t like and then acting differently?
Where am I going with this? I promise it’s not as lascivious as the title implies. Or is it? Click here to read on.
August 5, 2014
A person can do what they believe is best for themselves or they can do what is best for the community. Very often though a person can not do both. Within our home we have three different small groups of people. Two by design and one that is just sort of happening.
The first is renters, people who do not have an interest in our overall vision and goals. These people just pay money to share some of our extra space.As long as they continue to pay their rent on time and do not make a nuisance of themselves, how they live and what they do in general is of no consequence to us.
The second group is the people that are committed to our vision and goals who are dedicated to improving the lives of not just our community but of creating gradual world change.Instead of having a specific person that decides what we are or are not allowed to do we let our ideals decide. At any point where our goals alone are unable to provide a clear picture of what to do we put things to a vote.
What is the third group and how is it relevant? Click here to read on and see
August 5, 2014
A couple of times, I have mentioned that I see myself as a highly spiritual being. For the past decade or two, though, I haven’t been a very religious person. But, from time to time, things bubble up from the past when I was.
Sometimes it is ethics or ideals ingrained at a young age. Other times it is a few words of common wisdom from the long remembered past. This particular thing that I want to talk about is a biblical quote from when I was a practicing Jehovah’s Witness(No, I did not ever get it right)
According to Matthew 6:24 “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.“
What does this have to do with everyday life? Click here to read on and see